Friday, September 24, 2010
Welcome to my small new blog... I am searching for other mothers... and fathers who have special needs children.. I would like to follow you.. and I hope you want to follow me.
I have just begun this journey of... blogging..and need some other moms to keep me company.
So if you are a mom... especially a mom with a child with A.D.H.D. or NF1 and want to come visit me from time to time.. I would be grateful. Hope we get some new friends this Friday.
Have a great weekend.
It is time for me to get a recipe out...
a recipe of how to handle the new seasons of my son's life in Kindergarten, as he deals with transition, medicine... and symptoms of A.D.H.D and NF1.
I need to get my spices in order.....
For this new brew... I will need
Patience- with his behavior as he adjusts to new things
Gratitude - that his NF1 is at bay.. for now.. Nf1 brings a list of concerns for me.. but I try hard to put it in a comfortable place in my mind...
Celebration- I will pick this spice up more often.. and try to celebrate more of his milestones..first bus ride, first field trip without me.. first hit over the fence in baseball.
research- I always over use this spice...but I feel it helps me be a proactive parent.
Lots of instinct- I think mother's do a lot on instinct...and I will use a lot of it in this new fall brew.
I will mix all these ingredients together to get a sweet smelling and savory mix.
The mix with be me making the magic of my son's interests of the week...taste great to us.. as a family...
I will give him extra hugs... and try to limit the yelling
I will try not to obsessively dwell on his future or shortcomings... or what could happen.. and just relax and have a nice taste of the brew... and all it has to offer...
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
Parenting is a humbling experience. My son is easy to love but so hard to parent. I try to follow my instincts as a mother and a teacher... I was a pre-k and K teacher for over 15 years...My son has just started Kindergarten...
I am worried that my son will be a mini me.. at school.. I never got in trouble... ( well, he already has been kicked out of dance, and violin last year- for not focusing) but I don't want him to loose his homework after spending time doing it... I was a very disorganized student.. and I don't want my son to feel the pain of searching high and low for thins. I have set up a desk.. with all the necessary supplies to make homework time more organized. It is only the 3rd day... and so he has not had any homework from the teacher but every night I give him one little job to do.. Sometimes it's practicing his name.. sometimes it's identifying numbers or cutting coupons... I say words and ask him to tell me the first sound.. BUG bbb what sound does bug start with?????
I dread to ever learn that my son is not meeting expectations of his teacher. Life is painful for students who don't meet adults expectations. My self-esteem has always been the root of this.. my father always said.. You are so unorganized.. don't you know where this is or that is?
I have learned that school is not like it was when I went... students have more work, their days are more fragmented.. he goes to O.T. and there is a sense of pressure if you make a mistake. I have learned over the way a few tips I will share today.. on how to keep your child organized this year...
* Try to teach your child not to carry home everything... especially middle school and high school students..
* help them empty back pack daily and check for assignments..
* help them put homework in the same folder daily... to and from school
*If your child does not have innate organizational skills try to tell the child every place as home...
Homework time is hard for any A.D.H.D child
* * Don't approach your child on organization first thing in the am or late pm
**When you start homework if the desk is not neat or clean from the last time..don't bring it up.. when you are about to start homework.
***Help your child own the process... the time after snack or after 1 bike ride...
let them pick supplies..
***limit the distractions..Try not to answer the phone when helping your child do homework..
**The less you say, the better. If you can refrain from commenting.. on negative things...
**Give positive feedback..